If You’re Still Tolerating It, You’re Choosing It
It's time to get off the hamster wheel
I hit record early Friday morning, mostly because I felt a low‑grade tension humming in the room. Then I glanced at the chart and laughed: Mars had just marched back into Leo for the first time since January 5. Of course the air felt charged—I was watching the cosmic “go” light flip from yellow to bright, unapologetic green.
We’ve spent the last four months stuck in a cosmic roundabout. Mars retrograded through Cancer, momentum sputtered, and every lingering problem felt like Groundhog Day on loop. Today, the loop ends. The red planet’s in Leo now, and Leo energy doesn’t ask permission—it takes the throne and gets to work.
Which makes me wonder:
If the skies are screaming “Move!” what’s the one nagging issue you’re still babysitting?
The Momentum Test
Back in January, I kept telling clients, “This retrograde is the universe’s timeout—catch your breath, review your playbook.” Nice in theory. In practice? Most of us kept sprinting on a hamster wheel, burning calories without covering ground.
Now the timeout is over. Think back on the quarter:
Where did you actually regain momentum?
Where are you still looping?
Are you capitalizing on fresh speed, or signing up for another lap of the same race?
Mars in Leo won’t let you equivocate. If a problem is still parked in your driveway, it’s because you keep handing it the keys.
Sovereignty, Defined
I’ve been playing with this definition:
Sovereignty is acting on your values without outsourcing the verdict.
Leo is the lion, the ruler who gathers counsel yet decides alone. Sovereignty is discipline’s glamorous cousin; both draw a firm line in the sand, but sovereignty adds flair—this is my kingdom, and it will run accordingly.
We admire sovereign people because their lives feel deliberate. They disappoint others when necessary, but never betray themselves. The price of admission? A tolerance audit.
The Tolerance Audit
Name Your Groundhog. Identify one recurring situation—an employee who under‑delivers, a client who chronically pays late, the nightly doom‑scroll spiral—that you’ve labeled “annoying but manageable.”
Clock the Cost. Journal a quick tally: time, money, energy, self‑respect. Seeing the bill in black and white kills the illusion that toleration is free.
Make the King’s Move. Decide—really decide—what changes. Cancel the contract, set the boundary, delete the app. Mars gives the courage; Leo demands the follow‑through.
Practice Disappointment. Someone will flinch. Let them. A sovereign’s job isn’t universal approval; it’s truthful alignment.
Why the Deadline Matters
On April 24, Venus meets Saturn in Pisces. Values (Venus) sit across the table from reality (Saturn) and ask, “Are we doing this or not?” A week later, Saturn edges toward Aries and the cosmos shifts from contemplation to execution. Any half‑baked boundary you leave on the table now becomes twice as hard to enforce later.
Discipline with Teeth
Discipline isn’t torture; it’s liberation in advance. When you refuse to tolerate mis‑aligned clutter, you earn back the time, money, and mental runway to chase what actually matters. The trade‑off feels costly only until you remember the bigger reward: a life that looks like your long‑term vision, not a highlight reel of other people’s opinions.
The Invitation
Before Mars gets too comfortable in Leo, carve out thirty minutes:
Identify one thing you will no longer tolerate.
Write the irreversible action that ends it.
Schedule that action on your calendar—in ink.
When you act, you’ll feel a subtle click: the throne sliding under you, sovereignty settling into place. And if anyone asks why you’re suddenly so direct, just smile and tell them the truth:
“I stopped tolerating my own BS—care to join me?”
Thanks for the great, inspiring post!